11 signs you’re resilient — even if it doesn’t feel like it

The word “resilience” conjures up images of individuals struggling against dire circumstances – recovering from injuries, striving to survive in the wilderness, or fighting to reform corrupt systems.

In reality, true grit can manifest itself in many subtle ways. Anyone can be resilient – it just means that you are tough enough to bounce back from difficult circumstances.

It’s an incredibly important trait that is believed to be the key to success, as Business Insider previously reported.

Here are 11 signs that you’re a truly resilient person:


You hold yourself accountable

Resilient people don’t blame others or outside forces for their problems. They cultivate a healthy sense of personal responsibility, which allows them to tackle problems head on instead of wallowing in despair.


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You don’t complain

An occasional venting session is fine, but anyone with grit knows that complaining gets you nowhere. Resilience is all about having a good attitude.


You’re self-aware

If you’re going to navigate stormy seas, you’ve got to really know and trust yourself. Resilient people practice mindfulness and cultivate self-awareness.


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You accept your limits

The key to grit is accepting that you’re neither perfect nor limitless. You’ve got to accept your weaknesses along with your strengths in order to adapt to trying situations.


You’re not afraid to ask for help

Anyone with grit knows that asking for help isn’t the same as asking for hand-outs. Even the most successful people could use some assistance once in a while. Part of being resilient is being strong enough to ask for it.


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You never wallow

Wallowing in your sorrows is just about the worst thing you can do in a bad situation. Resilient people know to grieve their losses, make a plan, and move on.


You don’t compare yourself to others

Everyone has their own hidden struggles and their own definitions of success. Measuring yourself against your neighbor is futile and potentially harmful.


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You find humor in the absurd

Life is terrible sometimes, but you can’t let go of your sense of humor. You’ve got to be able to laugh at yourself and the often confusing, painful nature of reality. It’s truly the best medicine for getting through tough situations.


You know you can’t plan everything

You never know what life is going to throw at you next. People with grit accept this and are willing to be flexible. If you’re too locked into one path or one plan, you’re liable to fall apart when things go wrong.


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You cultivate a support system

Resilient people are usually not lone wolves. They have a trusted network of people who they know they can depend on during troubled times.


You take care of yourself

Grittiness isn’t just about enduring hardship. You’ve got to prepare for it too. In order to become strong enough to weather adversity, you’ve got to practice self-care and make yourself a priority from time to time.