- A bride said in a Reddit thread that she fell out with one of the bridesmaids at her wedding.
- The bridesmaid was heavily pregnant and posed with her hand on her belly during the professional photo shoot, despite the bride’s repeated requests for her not to.
- The bride said she felt that her friend’s behavior drew attention to her pregnancy and made her wedding photos look like maternity photos.
- However, the bridesmaid felt the bride was “trying to make her look fat, not pregnant.”
- People are divided over who was right.
A woman who recently got married said she feels that one of her bridesmaids, who was heavily pregnant at the wedding, tried to steal her thunder by highlighting her belly in the wedding photos.
Sharing her story on Reddit’s “Am I the A–hole” subreddit, the anonymous bride asked readers whether her reaction was out of line.
She said that she got married three weeks ago and that one of her bridesmaids, whom she called Kate for her post, was seven months pregnant at the time.
“Kate’s belly was easily accommodated into the dress style because it had quite a flowy skirt with a fitted bust,” she wrote.
The wedding party had photos taken between the ceremony and reception, and this was when the problem arose.
“In one of the first photos I noticed Kate was deliberately holding her belly so it was really obvious in the fabric of her dress (think basically every maternity shoot photo ever taken),” the bride wrote. “I asked her to stop holding her hands to show off her belly and to just pose like everyone else. I had to remind her a few more times before we’d finished taking the wedding party photos.”
After the wedding, the bride went away for a week on her honeymoon, and when she got back she hadn’t heard from Kate at all even though she’d messaged her. She said they usually talk every few days.
“I felt she was avoiding me,” she wrote.
She said another bridesmaid then confirmed that Kate was angry at her for “trying to make her look fat, not pregnant” in the photos.
“Now I’m annoyed because I paid a lot of money for a wedding photo shoot, not maternity pics,” she continued.
Naturally, Reddit users had a lot to say about the situation.
Many supported the bride.
“Those are your wedding photos, and there is absolutely no reason someone should be deliberately showing off their ‘baby bump’ to take away from the bride in a photo,” one person wrote. “If she didn’t feel comfortable in the dress, she could have opted out of being in the wedding. But making the photo shoot about herself and demonstrating her pregnant belly is not acceptable in a wedding photo. When you look back at the photos, you want to remember the happy times between you guys, not be distracted by her ‘on display’ baby bump.”
Others thought neither of the women were at fault and there was simply a lack of communication.
“It is weird she read it as you wanted her to look ‘fat instead of pregnant’ when clearly you just didn’t want her to be focus pulling in your expensive photos but it sounds like she was self-conscious about how she looked in outfits that hid that she was pregnant,” one person commented.
Some people sympathized with the bridesmaid, sharing their own experiences of being pregnant.
“As someone who was very recently pregnant, I can tell you I posed with my hand on my bump in every picture I took,” one person wrote. “I put my hand in my bump when I went out in public. Because it sucks being giant, and yes, you want people to know you are pregnant and not just huge.
“Posing like that is not trying to make it into a maternity shoot, unless she pulled the camera person aside and asked to take pictures of herself with her bump. She was just trying to feel halfway decent about herself in the pictures. It sucks being pregnant.
“I agree that if you needed everyone to do the same pose, she should have followed suit, but don’t assume that she was trying to make it all about her. She was probably just trying to make it through the photoshoot without crying.”