How my friend lost 26kg in 6 months (and raised $2,867 for charity)

I have a fat friend.

He’s always seemed comfortable with it. He calls himself “Kung Fu Panda”, and doesn’t get angry when people call him variations of “Fatty”.

But late last year, he decided to change. And start a life-changing weight loss adventure. He started at 122 kg on the 1st of October 2014.

Six months later, he tipped the scales at 96 kg.

This is the story of how he lost 26 kg in 6 months. And raised RM 10,000 (2,857 USD) for charity along the way.

LIVE TO EAT

I’ve known James for more than four years now. The first time we met, I immediately noticed two things: he was fat, and he loved to eat. He loved food, and by the looks of it, food loved him too.

We were members of a Rotaract club – so we hung out in a group often. Whenever he was around, food was involved. It wasn’t salads and cereal either. It was usually fried, fatty, oily food. The type that your typical Malaysian loves.

Picture of Oblong Ramlee Burger

Picture of Oblong Ramlee BurgerJames’ Favorite: Oblong Ramlee Burger. Double.

James hadn’t always been fat though. When he was younger, he was slim. He only started putting on weight in high school. And then he got consistently fatter over the years.

James seldom kept track of how much he weighed, but he knew he was expanding – because his clothes kept getting tight.

But except for one attempt where he managed to lose 10kg (only to gain it all back), he embraced being big. And kept buying new clothes every time he couldn’t fit the old ones.

Things culminated late last year, when James fattened up to his biggest size ever. Even close friends started commenting about how much weight he had put on.

He weighed 122 kilograms.

“EVERY KG YOU LOSE – I’LL DONATE TEN BUCKS TO CHARITY”

It started innocently enough. One random workday, a bunch of guys in a Whatsapp chat group talking trash:

“I’m gonna lose weight,” said James, “It’s time to get fit!”

“Yeah, right…” a skeptic threw back.

“Seriously, I’m gonna do it!”

“I’ll tell you what… Six months. Every kg you lose, I’ll give ten bucks to charity.”

“I’ll do it too. Ten ringgit for every one kg,” I chipped in.

Then another friend pledged. And another. By the end of that conversation, we had assembled a group of willing pledgers. We were going to literally pay for his weight loss.

James set his target at 10 kg.

“But wait, you’ve got all of us risking our money James. What if you fail your target? What’s your punishment?” the crowd asked.

“For every kg I miss my target, I will donate one hundred ringgit.”

Sometimes the male ego is useful.

GO BIG OR GO HOME

One of our Rotaract members always dreams big. Let’s call him PP. PP saw potential in what had just happened in our Whatsapp group.

So he proposed to expand the project: make it public, and have our Rotaract club organise it. It was approved. The club set up a campaign called #10for1KG – asking people to pledge to lose weight – and other people to give money to charity based on the weight loss.

Anyone could sign up. The club would just track progress and keep people accountable.

The campaign was a huge success – 24 people pledged to lose weight, and many others to donate money. We let donors choose the charity they wanted to help. As long as it was for a legit charitable cause.

James was the star of the campaign. His pledges officially came up to RM 396 per kg. If he lost his target of 10 kg, he would raise almost four thousand for charity.

But of course the male egos kicked in again. It wasn’t enough to just raise money for charity.

PP had to up the stakes: “10 kg is nothing. Lose 25 kg and I’ll walk down Changkat Bukit Bintang in a Pink Panther costume.”

“And if I don’t?” asked James.

“Then you walk down Changkat Bukit Bintang in a Barney (the purple dinosaur) suit.”

Challenge accepted.

Picture of James before weight loss

Picture of James before weight loss – at 122kg

HOW TO EAT LIKE A (WEIGHT) LOSER

“Most people think getting fit is a lot of cardio, some weight training, and a little dieting. It’s not. It’s lots of clean eating, some weight training and a little cardio.”

To design his weight-loss programme, James turned to a trusted friend, who freelances in fitness training.

It was a programme based on Leangains, Intermittent Fasting, and Carbohydrate Cycling. The following is what James did.

16/8 Intermittent Fasting:

Ate only during an 8-hour “feeding window” every day. (16 hours of fasting)

No food during the 16 hours of fasting – only water.

Skipped breakfast. Meals were usually lunch, a pre-workout snack, and dinner by 9 pm.

No limits on amount of food during “feeding window”. As long as it was healthy food – ate as much as he wanted!

The theory behind Intermittent Fasting is that the human body enters a “fasting” state once you haven’t eaten for about 12 hours. In this state, the body burns stored fat for energy. Which is what we want. But if you’re constantly eating, your body just burns the food you eat – and your excess fat never goes anywhere.

Carbohydrate Cycling:

Ate carbohydrate-rich foods only on gym days. (Tuesdays, Thursdays, Saturdays)

Examples of carbohydrate-rich foods: rice, noodles, bread, pasta.

On non-gym days (Mondays, Wednesdays, Fridays, Sundays), ate mostly vegetables and lean meat (e.g. fish and chicken).

No limits on amount of carbohydrates during gym days. Ate as much as he wanted.

The theory behind Carbohydrate Cycling is that the human body burns fat (both in the food you eat, and the stored fat in your body) when carbohydrates aren’t available.

On gym days, carbohydrates are needed for energy to lift weights and to help build muscle. So eat them then.

On non-gym days, since there’s no heavy weight lifting, stop eating carbohydrates. To encourage the body to burn fat.

Drank 4 liters of water every day. 3.5 liters on non-gym days.

Greatly reduced eating the following foods: fatty meat / chicken skin, lard, chocolates & sweets, and highly processed foods (e.g. burgers, sausages, dried meat).

Allowed cheat days, and ate as much of whatever food he wanted on these days.

Had an average of 5 cheat days a month (usually when entertaining guests).

Picture of non-gym vs gym day lunch

Picture of non-gym vs gym day lunch. Rice only on gym days

Initially, James experimented with portions – starting with very small meals. But eventually, he found that he could still lose weight, while eating as much as he liked – as long as he followed the principles above.

It’s the best thing about this diet, according to James: “you can eat a lot of things and you don’t need to starve. When I’m not fasting, I can eat as much as normal… Even more than normal… And still lose weight.”

(On a side note, I do a version of the above diet too. And it’s helped me drop from 21 per cent body fat to about 15 per cent over the past six months. All while I was still increasing my weights in the gym.)

One important thing: James doesn’t have time to cook. So he ate out most of the time. In an ideal world, we would all prepare healthy home-cooked meals. But James has shown that you can still eat out, as long as you make healthy food choices.

“I was so proud of myself the first time I ate meat without the fat. Wow, did James Ong really do that!?”

“IN MY FIRST WEEK OF WORKING OUT, I NEARLY DIED”

The above section may have made it sound easy. But James worked hard at exercise too. Extremely hard.

This is his exercise routine:

  • Compound weight training using barbells. Three times a week: Tuesdays, Thursdays and Saturdays.
  • 45 minutes – 1 hour per session. Sometimes added on 30 minutes of cycling at the end.
  • Focused on the three main powerlifts: Squat, deadlift and bench press.
  • In the first month, started with 5 sets of 5 repetitions (5×5) i.e. squat 5 times (1 set), rest a few minutes, and then continue until 5 sets are reached. Then move to the next powerlift.
  • From the second month onwards, did 3 sets of 5 reps (3×5). And only one set of 5 reps for the deadlift (1×5).
  • Every time he could complete all sets comfortably, he increased the weights on the bar:
  • 5 kg increase for Squat and Deadlift
  • 2.5 kg increase for Bench Press
  • Started alternating bench press with overhead press from the 3rd month onwards.
  • Started doing negative chin-ups. (Hint: it’s a great exercise for people who can’t do proper chin-ups yet).

Here’s James in action.

Squat: The king of exercises

Deadlift: 5 reps are all you need 

Bench Press: Popular, but not overrated. May attract attention from women. If you’ve read about powerlifting before, you’ll recognise the above routine borrows very heavily from Starting Strength and StrongLifts 5×5. Both James and I are strong believers in these programs. They give you amazing results for very little time spent.

When he had time, James also sometimes swam for 30 minutes on non-gym days. But the core of his exercise programme was barbell weight training.

“But wait – don’t you need lots of cardio exercise to lose weight? Lots of running, because weight training just makes you bulky right?”

I don’t think so. I believe the most efficient way to lose weight healthily is to modify your diet and lift heavy weights2. Cardio can just supplement that.

“WHEN IT FIRST STARTED, IT WAS JUST A STUPID BET…”

And yet, the amazing happened.

In the first week, James lost 4kg. (His trainer told him not to get too excited though. It was mostly from water retention).

After 1.5 months: 10 kg. His shirts fit properly now.

By the end of 2.5 months, James had lost 17 kg.

Unfortunately in month 3, James had to do undergo minor surgery. This made him unable to hit the gym. I won’t give you the gory details here, except that James learned the hard way – he needed to eat lots of vegetables for fiber.

It helps when going to the toilet.

While recuperating from surgery, James got caught up in charity work with Shelterbox. So that threw his workout schedule out for another month.

He finally got back to his schedule in month 5. And lost another 4 kg, bringing his total weight loss to 21 kg.

THE FINAL MONTH: LESSONS ON SUSTAINABILITY

By 1st March 2015, James had vastly outperformed his initial goal of 10 kg. He was now just chasing the 25 kg target set by our friend PP.

A target that would have made the difference between the streets of Kuala Lumpur seeing Barney and the Pink Panther.

He needed to lose another 4 kg in four weeks. But of all the months of James’ weight-loss journey, this was the most difficult. For some reason, his weight plateaued. It wasn’t going down at all.

James went into panic mode: Except for four cheat days, he totally eliminated carbohydrates (even on gym days), and ate super clean food (i.e. steamed fish and vegetables every day).

He forced himself to swim every non-gym day, instead of doing it happily in his free time. It was stressful, and he was constantly tired from having no carbs.

Picture of steamed fish: clean eating!

Picture of steamed fish: clean eating! Could you eat this every day for a month?

Eventually he lost 5 kg, bringing his grand total to 26 kg in 6 months.

But he had been miserable:

“The first five months were pretty easy. But the last month wasn’t! It was depressing…”

If there’s something we can all learn from the final month it’s this: No matter what self-improvement plan you’re pursuing, it’s OK to work hard.

But if you’re making yourself extremely miserable – understand that you’ve gone too far. Progress should be consistent and pleasant – not drastic and depressing. Because this kind of progress is unsustainable.

You might get to a target fast – but you’ll be unhappy and slide back to your old ways. It’s OK to be gentle with yourself. It’s more sustainable that way.

HARDER, BETTER, FASTER, STRONGER…

Along with the huge weight loss, James also achieved the following:

  • Dropped his shirt size from XXXL to XL
  • Can now wear jeans from 8 years ago
  • Increased his strength: maximum squat at 110 kg, maximum deadlift at 100 kg, and maximum bench press at 60 kg
  • Boosted his energy: “I have more energy now. I don’t feel so sleepy after lunch and I can climb the staircase easily. Oh, I can drink more now too”.
  • Improved his stamina: “I used to be able to swim only 5 laps. Now I can do 35.”

Best of all, he can now troll his friends. I love the response he recently got when he advised his friend on diet: “F**k… James is teaching me how to eat!”

HOW MUCH TIME & MONEY?

This is how much James had to spend over the past six months:

Time:

  • Minimum: 3 hours a week (for lifting weights)
  • Optional: 3.5 hours a week (7 x 30 minutes of cardio)

Money:

  • One pair of Converse shoes: RM 150 (43 USD)
  • A one-time gym registration fee: RM 50 (14 USD)
  • Monthly gym membership fee: RM 70 (20 USD)

Not too expensive or time-consuming right?

But even better, due to his modified diet, James now spends about RM 200 per month less on food. More than enough to cover all his gym expenses.

Not only is he getting fitter, he’s getting richer too.

Picture of James and mr-stingy

Picture of James (left) at 101 kg and mr-stingy (right) at 71 kg

THE #10FOR1KG LEGACY

James continues to follow his diet and workout routine (the sustainable version). He intends to lose another 20 kg. I believe he will. By the end of 2015, we will probably weigh the same.

On the night of 11th April 2015, the Pink Panther walked through one of the busiest nightlife areas in Kuala Lumpur, flanked by half a dozen ladies.

James had made good on his promise, and so had he.

Pledgers started banking in their donations. The full collection will total about RM 10,000. 78 per cent of that money has already been collected and sent to help the earthquake survivors in Nepal. When the remainder is collected, it will help fund a school in Malaysia.

(This number excludes donations from all the other participants of #10for1KG. We expect total donations from this project to reach RM 16,000.)

James isn’t one to brag, but when I interviewed him for this story, I could see the happiness in his eyes, and feel the passion in his voice. I asked him the all-important question:

“Why did you suddenly decide to do it?”

“…Because I thought to myself. If I got married, would I have enough health and energy to take care of my family? I was already starting to have small health problems and my gout was worsening…”

INSPIRATION

Ever the gentleman, James credits his friends and family for helping him reach his goal.

I’m proud to be one of them:”everyone was very supportive: my mom and dad, my friends, and especially my trainer. It’s been inspiring. I told myself: I’m not gonna disappoint any one of them.”

But perhaps the best show of support came from an unlikely source. I’ll let James tell this one:

“I used to regularly go to this burger seller near my home. Over the years we became friends. But when he heard about my weight-loss programme, even he started encouraging me”.

“One night, I decided to cheat, so I stopped by his stall and ordered some Oblong Ramlee Burger”.

He looked at me for a moment, and then gave the best reply I could have possibly asked for…”

‘No.’

Aaron Tang is the founder of mr-stingy.com, where he writes about optimizing Time, Money and Relationships.